I thought I would share...

To those who are married, .. Not married .. and soon to be married, I hope you will be touched with this story... 

MARRIAGE 

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to ope...n my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

I'm always a work in progress....

"May I never get too busy in my own affairs that I fail to respond to the needs of others with kindness and compassion."

~Thomas Jefferson 

Wordless Wednesday

Okay, I know this is suppose to be WORDLESS WEDNESDAY, buttttttt

this is my whole entire world right here and I just don't know what I would be without them! 

Yay's and Nay's

I've had several people say "My life is boring...please blog."

So to that I say..... "Wow, Sister, get a life" {it was someone who is like a sister who said that, so I'm at liberty to say this.}

A few things I've been loving lately and a few things I've been not-so-loving lately...
Nay #1 

Work has been CRAZY busy and it is making me sooooo tired all the time. I am booked every single day and sometimes two separate job in one day. I am needless to say, burnt out!
Yay #1

With all the busy days at work come a large paycheck! :)

Nay #2

Alex's work hours. Yes, I understand that this is nothing new, but the 2pm-12am (often 1-2am) just kills me. I work 8am-3pm, so we completely by pass ALL THE TIME. He is usually working weekends as well, so it just plain SUCKS!

Yay #2
Alex was OFF- Yes OFF Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday last week! He got to take some time off with 'birthday pay' because it's his birthday month. Of course he planned this time off to be the same weekend as the NFL Draft. It is HIS favorite three days a year when he gets to watch the draft and although it's not my FAVORITE three days it's pretty fun to watch. It's my third year watching the whole thing side-by-side with him. He is usually on-line 'researching' or texting and Facebooking friends during most of it while I am just sitting there. Haha.

Nay #3

I still do not have a deck in my backyard. We had that crazy estimate of $5,000 so we decided to do it ourselves but it hasn't started yet.....The next nice weathered weekend I am going to start it! I have 'How to build a deck' bookmarked on diynetwork.com! I want to really be able to ENJOY our backyard this summer. It shall get done!

Yay #3

I became a member of NW Nutrition on Fourth Plain! I now have a weightloss/wellness coach to keep my butt accountable. I joined on April 16. I went in on April 23rd, one Friday later and had already lost 1.6 pounds (I know that's not that much) and 2.5 inches! I am more concerned with inches, so in just 7 days I am happy with the results. They offer a bunch of meal replacement shakes and supplements, but I am not doing that. I am just making it to the gym 4-6 days a week to swim and cutting back portion sizes! I am going to weigh in every Friday at 4pm, so I am pretty excited!

Yay #4

There are ONLY 41 days of school left! Enough said.

Nay #5

My 4 month old laptop had a virus. The super expensive antivirus program that Best Buy nearly shoved down our throat when we bought the computer completely failed me. We took it in to get fixed and we were first quoted $300-400 to fix a $479  nearly new computer! Then they came down to $130. It was suppose to by there for 5-7 days and after 24 hours they said it was done and I called to go pick it up only to find that they did not even start it and just lied. Right away I just told them that I did not want them to touch it and I was taking it home. Ugh... We had a number of a guy that Alex's dad used to fix his computer, so we called. This guy comes to your house to fix your computer, so we called him. He came the next day and got rid of the virus, did stuff to speed it up, downloaded a better antivirus and introduced me to Google Chrome as web browser instead of Firefox and did this all in one hour and for ONLY $45!!!  

Yay #5

We are going to DALLAS this fall for a Dallas Cowboys game! :) It's looking like it will be the October 25th game which is a MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL game! Does it get any better!?!

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9 Months

Ryder is now 9 months old! (Okay, as of 4/12 he was- I'm a little late!)

He had a vet check up and a booster shot and he weighs..........

65 lbs!

Actually, I am quite surprised. He is for the most part full grown now and even though he is not the breed or size we were told he would be he's actually turn out to be the perfect boy for us. He's not too big, but not too small. He is not that much bigger than Simon. Of course he weighs more than double what Simon does, but he's just built different. Simon is tall and skinny and Ryder is pretty short and stout.
Oh I just love my naughty little boy!

Breaking Silence

So, apparently I needed a little 'bloggy' breather....

It's kinda like when you lay down for a "power nap" and end up sleeping for 5 hours....you know you just needed it.

That's kind of what happened.

I didn't get sick, and I even had a few things to write about....

But it just seemed like for the past few weeks I was "in a mood."

Not a bad mood, but just a mood.

I would sit down to blog and all I could think about was blahhhhhhhhh or things that were annoying me.

I thought I would spare you all! (Aren't you glad?!?)

I'm not against a little soapbox from time to time, but this was almost ridiculous. And I was more than a little reminded of how blah I felt and that my petty annoyances were just that.....petty.

Sometimes it's just better to close your mouth and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt......that is not a 'Kristina' original, but I don't know who said it.

So yeah....I *THINK* I'm back....I do have a few things to update you all on in the next few days. :)

Birthday Boy

 

Alex had not one...not two.... but THREE birthday celebrations!

Soooooooo spoiled!

{He'll hate that I posted these ...LOL)

"Ummmmm Mrs. Schiltz....

.....this song by Justin Bieber and he is a HE not a SHE. Ok? Thanks." ~ My 4th grader

I am I the only one who heard that song "One Time" and thought it was a girl singing? Geez.....

I think I have finally lost touch with my youth. I don't understand the Jonas Brothers, Miley Cyrus or Justin Beiber.

I'm getting olddddddddddd!!

Happpppppy Birthdayyyyyyyyyyyy!!!

Happy 25th Birthday to my wonderful husband!

Ooooooooohhhhhhh Ahhhhhhhhhh.....

Spring Break was sure good to me this year...... 

got a little cut.....

got a little color...

can't forget the manicure....

or the pedicure...

might as well throw in a facial....

and a massage while they're at it.

See why I'm sayin' Ooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhh Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.....

I needed this to feel refreshed and rejuvenated. Only 56 more days of school!

(By the way.... MOST of what I had done was with a GROUPON! I tell ya they are great. I spent under $120 and had all that done! GO ME!!)

I'll admit...

I'll admit it:  I'm a mailbox junky.  I love love love hearing the rhythmic buzz of the mailtruck dropping off daily surprises in my mailbox!  When I hear that mailtruck sound, I lurk out the peep hole just long enough to see him drive off to the next mailbox (don't want to seem too eager!) and then dash out to find what surprises have arrived for the day!  It's okay if you're laughing at me right now...Alex thinks my obsession with the mail is hilarious.  I get it from my papa, seriously.  The uncanny sense that the mail carrier is close by just runs in our family genes.

Spring Break Randomness....

1. When was the last time you craved a food--what was it, and did you cave?
Is fountain Coke a food? I would contend that yes, yes it is.....yesterday around lunch time. I would have caved but..... I don't have a soda fountain at my house!

2. M & M's or Skittles? 
When you talk about M & M's and Skittles in the same sentence.....neither sounds appetizing. 
See, it depends on what I'm eating. Probably skittles...and sometimes the blue or purple bag and SOMETIMES the Sour skittles.......but M & M's are good too!

3. Have you ever read the Bible completely through? 
Yes. It has been a little while though. The last time was probably when I was in college.

4. How long does it take you to really wake up in the morning?
Oh my....I'm weird I wake up before my alarm even goes off! :o)

5. Have you ever been on a cruise? If not, would you like to?
No. I do want to though....

6. Who is your favorite actress?
I think it depends on what kind of scenario we're talking about here....Rachel McAdams. Maybe.


7. ______ is something that I will just never understand.
Abortion. I know that may sound like an easy cop out answer......but I really REALLY don't understand how someone could kill their baby. I really don't. Especially now that I see in my own life that getting pregnant is a challenge it makes me despise abortion even more.... 

8. How much of a technology junkie are you?
Not hardly. I can work them fine if everything is functioning correctly, buttttttttttt the minute something goes wrong I'm lost!


9. Do you enjoy selecting greeting cards for people, or is it more of a cultural "have to" for you?
I love it! I buy greeting cards alllll the time. I have a huge box of them and I'm so excited when I get an excuse to actually go dig one out! :o)


10. When was the last time you got a new style/haircut?
It's been about 8 weeks since I got it cut. A new sytle? Eh... a year? I'm working on growing it long again..... ahhhhh how I miss my long hair. But I get to get a cut TODAY! 
 

11. What do you enjoy shopping for most?
I like shopping, and I like getting new clothes, but I'm don't loooove the process {trying on, feeling fat, etc} so as far as shopping goes....places like Target, Old Navy, Victoria Secret,  Ikea and Barnes & Noble.....I could seriously browse there all.day.long.

12. What's the last thing you think of before you leave the house?
Do I have my phone?

Groupon!

If you haven't checked out the website www.groupon.com you should!
Everyday they offer one deal in your city... I have bought a few of them now and they are great. Unfortunately, they don't have a Groupon for Vancouver, (although they did have one pop up) but they do for Portland. I am also set up to get the notifications for Groupons in Tacoma (which I have purchased for family).

Here is how it works...

WATCH THIS 

*Just today I got a mani/pedi at a salon in Portland for $15! I paid $15 for a $45 dollar gift certificate!
*Last week I bought for for Vancouver, it also cost $15 and it was for a $35 gift certificate to Lapellah in Vancouver.
* I have another for a salon in Portland. It was $45 and it's a $180 gift certificate for spa treatments!!! I can't wait to use that one! :o)
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And if you decide to join do it via this link, so I can get $10 toward MY next purchase
 JOIN HERE

Easter at the Schiltz's

 

Me in a Nutshell....

♥I am a wife of one year (and 8 months) to Alex.
♥Mom to Simon Rex, who is 2 and Ryder Max, born July 2009.
♥I am a TEACHER!
♥I am trying to recapture my love for reading.
♥I dream of being skinny again, but hate dieting and even more so, breaking a sweat.
♥My favorite season is summer!
♥I wish I liked the outdoors more.
♥I love FOUNTAIN Coke.
♥I love great words.
♥I am a people pleaser to a fault.
♥I love shopping.
♥Sweatpants and a hoodie are my outfit of choice.
♥I want to visit all places tropical.
♥I am trying to learn how to eat like a skinny person.
♥I am a big fan of run-on sentences and poor grammar. Most of the time.
♥I am a sucker for a good deal....
♥I love football season.
♥I am grossly organized.
♥Did I mention that I love fountain Coke? It pairs nicely with chocolate and pizza :)
♥I am ridiculously indecisive.
♥I have a fantastic memory.
♥I love DIY projects, especially when they're DONE!
♥If I could master one skill, it would be cake decorating......or photography :)

Random. Bored. Tired

1. How old is the oldest pair of shoes in your closet?
Umm...let's see. I'm 25, and I still have my Doc Marten sandles from 9th grade---{not that I WEAR them, but you see they were in an investment}, and in 9th grade...I was 14...15? So 10-11 years old. On the ratio of my life.....that's a very long time. Just sayin'...

2. Did you buy Girl Scout cookies this year? If so, what variety?
Nope... but if I were to have purchased any it would have been Thin Mints! Mmmmmm....

3. Do you know how to ballroom dance? If not, would you like to?
Yes I do! I took ballroom dancing 4 times in college! I would LOVE to take dance lessons again and brush up on it!

4. Were you a responsible child/teenager?
Yep. Too responsible. I kind of think I missed out on doing a lot of "fun" stuff because I was too much of a "goody goody!"

5. How many of this year's Oscar-nominated movies did you see?
I don't think I have seen any yet...

6. If you're going to have a medical procedure done, such as having blood drawn, is it easier for you to watch someone else having the procedure done or have it done yourself?
I would like to have nothing to do with needles, IV's, blood, etc. 
I've always thought that the medical profession was an honorable and fascinating career choice, but I just couldn't do it.....I sooo wish that I could. I could catch a baby, but I could never administer the IV. 

7. What is your favorite day of the week and why?
Probably Saturday.

8. Do you miss anyone right now?
Not really.....I mean, Alex is at work....but he'll be home later. That sounds so insensitive. 

9. Do hospitals make you queasy?
Not at all.

10. At which store would you like to max-out your credit card. Not that you ever would, you responsible person, you.
Target. I know I should probably say some really cool store.....like Coach or something {which I could totally do that too}, but Target......*sigh* I love Target. 
 
11. Are you true to the brand names of products/items?
I guess it depends. I'm kind of a loyal Mary Kay chica because I sell it.  But that's about where it stops....

12. Which is more difficult: looking into someone’s eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someone’s eyes when he/she is telling you how he/she feels?
Probably telling someone how I feel.